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We’ve Made Great Plans- So Why do We Just Want to go to Bed?

In the age of CONSTANT connectivity- (snap chat, Instagram, FaceTiming and  just plain old texting) our intentions often clash with our follow through.

We meticulously plan outings, commit to social gatherings, and promise ourselves self-improvement ventures. However, when the moment of truth arrives, we really just want to sit our butts at home- on our couches- or better yet- IN OUR BEDS.

True story:

When my kids were younger, they made some kind of Mother’s Day project for me and one of the questions was

“What is your mom’s favorite place”

You might think they’d say, Colorado, Hawaii, or Mexico…. But, my kids are TRUTH TELLERS.

The answer…


They weren’t lying.  🙈

Why does this happen? Are we just lazy?   I wouldn’t say that.   With our whole contacts list available with a simple click- I believe it is just overwhelming.  Who wants to feel overwhelmed?  Besieged?  On-demand?   We default to our comfort zones and our homes offer us just that, COMFORT.  They offer a true sanctuary, familiarity, and the absence of judgment. They're our own retreats from the chaos of the outside world. So, when faced with the choice between the comfort of home and the uncertainty of socializing or pursuing new experiences, we lean toward COMFORT.

Here’s the tricky part.  As enticing as staying at home may be, there's a danger in succumbing to retreating.   Human connection is essential for our well-being. Interacting with others boosts our mood, broadens our perspectives, and enriches our lives in ways that solitude cannot. When we consistently opt for isolation, we risk losing touch all together with the outside world. If we stop showing up- eventually, our friends will stop asking.

The importance of forcing ourselves to get out and do things is more important than we think.

Studies have shown a correlation between social isolation and mental health issues such as depression and anxiety. When we cut ourselves off from the world, we deprive ourselves of the support networks and meaningful connections that are essential for maintaining emotional resilience.

We must prioritize  our long-term well-being over short-term comfort. It won’t always be easy- but it will be worth it.  Each outing, each social interaction, each new experience is a stepping stone toward personal growth and fulfillment.

So, the next time you find yourself tempted to stay home instead of venturing out, remember the bigger picture. Push past the discomfort and take that first step- text- or better yet CALL a friend.  Make a plan.   Whether it's a coffee date with a friend, simply taking a walk, or a picking up a new hobby (did someone say pickleball 😀) each moment spent outside your comfort zone is an investment in your happiness and well-being.

Now, get out of your bed, call a friend and make a plan.  And just know- it’s my work to do the same.

With love from my Core,

Amity ❤️

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